Today’s love story is that of Alan and Amy, who got married this August in Rathsallagh House. In 2012, Alan studied at NUIG and Amy, an American student, was on Erasmus there. At first Amy ignored Alan, or at least that is Alan’s memory of events. He felt she actively ignored him and possibly hated him. Amy remembers things slightly differently, she simply didn’t notice him.
Alan, by his own admission, was desperate to get her attention and adamant he would succeed. Amy was in an active state of disinterest when it came to romance, it wasn’t personal, it was more of a blanket ban on the less fair sex. So she was more puzzled by why she was drawn to this badly dressed young man.
Alan and Amy started going off on trips alone to sit on the grass bank by the Spanish Arch. They stayed up late talking after all of their other friends had fallen off one by one. They felt it would be only fair to keep it all a total secret. So for the next 2 months they lied to their best friends. Their consideration of their friend group’s dynamic from those early days speaks to their emotional maturity above all else.
After they met, they never intended on putting themselves through long distance love loss and anxiety. But they wanted to stay together and this was the sacrifice. After two years, they made their way back together. Amy returned to Ireland, this time to Dublin to study a Masters in Trinity in Applied Behaviour Analysis.
For the next three years, they lived together and planned to return to Boston together only to be held apart by the constrains of bureaucracy … visas, permits, these things are so foreign to love but just as real. Now, they will be able to move on, into the next phase of their lives, together, as a married couple in a place where they both feel very much at home. Ireland has been good to them and America will be too.
Alan and Amy were married at Rathsallagh House, Wicklow, by our Leinster celebrant Aideen McDonald. They were joined by all of their family and friends and they described their day as, “better than we ever could have imagined.” They praised Aideen for her part to play on the day, “we were particularly taken by how well you captured our relationship and how well you articulated it in the speech.”
Alan and Amy had a handfasting ceremony. Handfasting ceremonies are an age old Irish tradition, that bonds a loving couple together forever. Just like the knot gets stronger under pressure, so does their love. To give ones “hand in marriage”, the “bonds of matrimony”, and “tying the knot”, all hail from this ancient tradition.
Everyone at Marry Me Ireland wishes Alan and Amy the biggest congratulations. We are so glad your wedding ceremony at Rathsallagh House was everything you wished for and more.
Here at Marry Me Ireland we have a wide variety of exceptional celebrants who can deliver the wedding or vow renewal ceremony of your dreams – traditional, unique or otherwise. So get in touch today and we can start planning your special day!