Writing your own wedding vows can be daunting, but it is definitely worth it in the end. Wedding vows should be personal and special so take your time writing them. Writing in general doesn’t come easy to everyone so if you are struggling, or just looking for a little bit of advice, this blog is perfect for you.
Decide on a Tone with your Fiancé
It is important to establish a tone, format, and the logistics of your wedding vows with your fiancé at the beginning. Do you want humorous, romantic, or poetic vows? Will you write them together or keep them a surprise until the wedding ceremony? Will you keep them traditional or completely personal or a bit of both? If you figure all of this out before you write them, you won’t have any unwanted surprises on the day.
Read a Lot of Vows for Inspiration
This is the best way to get your thought process flowing. The more vows you read, the more ideas you will get. While you shouldn’t copy anyone’s vows directly and claim them yourself, take note of the layout and style of vows you like.
Make a Lot of Lists
Lists are a good way of making sure you haven’t forgotten anything that you would have liked in your vows. Start by making a list of the memories you have had with your significant other and pick a few favourites. Make another list of what you love about them and your relationship. A third list can contain the promises you will keep. Make a seperate list of the ones that jump out at you to help you piece together your vows.
Vows should be personal and meaningful, so if you have decided to write your own vows, try and steer clear from clichés. It is important that your vows represent you and that won’t happen if they are a mix of everyone else’s phrases and quotes. Try and make those overused phrases more relatable and personal.
Write it Out
Now that you have your preparation done it is time to start writing them. This is the first draft so don’t put too much pressure on yourself and write from the heart. A lot of couples begin with a story and then circle back to it at the end. Another option is to, affirm your love, praise your partner, offer promises, and close with a final vow.
Keep it Short
Really long vows become boring and your wedding guests will start to zone out. Try and keep your wedding vows between one and two minutes to avoid them dragging on. If you’re finding it hard to cut things out, why not add them to a letter to your bride or groom, that they can read on your wedding morning.
Here at Marry Me Ireland we have a wide variety of exceptional celebrants who can deliver the wedding ceremony of your dreams- traditional, unique or otherwise. So get in touch today and we can start planning your special day!