What you wish you knew before your wedding day

For most people, planning your wedding day seems fun and exciting… until reality comes along and rains on your wedding-day-parade. To provide you with your own proverbial rain jacket and wellies, we at Marry Me Ireland have come up with a list of things that make couples everywhere say, “I wish I’d known…”

Your Day, Your Way

It’s your day, so you have the final say in everything that goes on. Whether it’s your mother pressuring you into buying that dress you secretly think is hideous, your wedding vendors thinking they know best, or all of your married friends thinking they hold the answers to the universe, just remember that this is your wedding. That being said, small gestures to make your guests feel comfortable will not go amiss. Your wedding should be something that you and your guests remember fondly for years to come.

Coordination is Key

Rule number one: Find the balance between indecisive and micro-manager. Just because it’s your wedding it doesn’t mean you have to take care of everything yourself. Help is always appreciated, especially when you’re trying to breathe through the nerves and think about a million different things. Delegate tasks at the wedding and the reception to your bridesmaids, your parents, your in-laws, anyone you trust. Everyone is there for you, so let them help! Or, if you need an extra hand, hire a wedding coordinator for the day to keep things running smoothly. You’ll be happy at the end of the night when you don’t have to worry about who’s cleaning up or where all your gifts have been placed while you weren’t watching.


Please, don’t forget to eat before the ceremony and during the reception. You’ll no doubt be busy taking pictures and trying to talk to everyone you’ve ever met, so have someone set aside some food for you during the reception. You paid for it after all!

Smaller Wedding, Better Honeymoon

You don’t need to invite your parents’ nosy neighbour or that ex-flatmate who you haven’t talked to in five years. Invite the people you love and who will be there for you in the future. Not that you should cut too many corners, but only splurge on what you feel is essential to the day. The more money you save on the wedding, the more money you can put towards your honeymoon – and who doesn’t want that?

Sweet Tooth

Many people are under the illusion that they need a giant wedding cake for their reception, but that’s not true. There are a lot of people who don’t even eat the cake and a lot of it can wind up going to waste. Keep the tradition alive if it makes you happy, but there are a lot of different alternatives that might even wind up saving you money – candy tables where guests fill their own bags to take home, assorted dessert tables, donuts, cupcakes, cookie trays, etc. The possibilities are endless!

Two Dresses, Too Many

For most people, buying one dress for the wedding and one for the reception can wind up breaking the bank. Our advice is to find that perfect dress that you won’t mind wearing all night. And if your style is “the bigger, the better,” you can add a bustle to many dresses to tie up the extra fabric to keep guests from stepping on your dress all night. And, while you’re thinking of your attire, remember to think of your feet – they’ll thank you later. Put down those adorable heels that squeeze your feet in all the wrong places and find yourself a cute and comfortable alternative (or bring a spare pair of flats you can slip into during the night and you’ll get the best of both worlds.)

Choose Your Thousand Words Wisely

If each picture taken at your wedding is worth a thousand words, make sure you communicate what you want with your photographer! Make sure you get pictures with everyone you want to and make sure that your photographer takes pictures of your guests even if you’re somewhere else. Budget extra time for pictures into your schedule so you don’t have to rush through everything! Many couples also opt for wedding videos to make sure they never forget a minute.

DIY Dangers

As fun and inexpensive as DIYs can be, it’s important to remember not to take too much on by yourself. Hand-making your table decorations might seem like a good idea, but when you’re five hours in and nowhere near done, you may be having your own “I wish I’d known…” moment. Do whatever you’re comfortable with, but just remember that DIYs take time!

Don’t Worry, Be Happy

There’s no sense in stressing yourself out so much that you can’t enjoy your own wedding. You can’t control the weather, so don’t worry about it. You’ve probably planned it all down to the smallest detail already, so stop overthinking everything. There will always be something about your appearance that you’ll want to change (just like any other day), so don’t worry about that either. Everyone looks perfect on their wedding day because they’re uniting with their other half. Relax and enjoy your day.

And, finally…. 

Alone Time

Whenever possible, try to get some alone time with your spouse. You’ll be talking, laughing, and dancing all evening, but the day is ultimately a celebration of your love; you’ll want to have a quiet minute to yourselves in the middle of all the madness.

There are sure to be other “I wish I’d known…” instances specific to every couple, but we hope we’ve given you some things to think about that will lessen those moments for you and your spouse.

Here at Marry Me Ireland we have a wide variety of exceptional celebrants who can deliver the wedding ceremony of your dreams- traditional, unique or otherwise. So get in touch today and we can start planning your special day!